Keeping up!

Keeping up!

Hello my loves! Once again, its been a minute since my last post…but I’m finally freeing up a bit at work so I wanted to talk about something that’s been on my mind lately.

For most of us, we are working 9-5 jobs… if not 9-9 or whatever it may be and finding the TIME to also manage a blog or Instagram is extremely difficult!! Being on this platform has many pros and cons and at the end of the day, I find that some days are tougher than others. I think we’ve all been there and share the same struggles…whether its caring too much about the stats, or feeling uninspired…I think it’s completely NORMAL to go through peaks and valleys.

The important part is…to not force yourself to create if the flow just isn’t there. Some weeks, I have a million ideas of what I want to feature on my feed- outfits, locations, camera angles, etc. Other weeks, like this past one, I just felt nothing…it wasn’t a lack of motivation, but it was just a lack of creative juices? In those moments, I found that I could either try harder and keep trying… or just take a break and listen to my body! (or maybe mind).

I just wanted to bring this reminder with you all, especially if you are struggling with the ups an downs, to keep going. Allow yourself the breaks that you need and organically, you’ll feel refreshed, revived, and the content will follow. Another little tip I have is, in addition to a break, it’s important to remind yourself and ask yourself the right questions. Why am I doing this? Do I love what I’m doing? How is this making me feel? Are the cons outweighing the pros? It’s important to ask these questions because we can easily get sucked into this routine of engaging, posting, sharing, and just spending countless hours on Instagram. But at the end of the day, always keep your ‘purpose’ in mind.

Lastly, sometimes, instead of doing all the ‘work’ to continue growing, don’t forget that this is also suppose to be FUN! I love scrolling through Discover and finding inspiration. Don’t forget to allow yourself to have FUN…have fun exploring the platform and connecting with people that bring you joy 🙂

I hope you were able to take something away from this, even if its just knowing that you are not alone girl!!

Age is just a number

Age is just a number

Some of you might know that I recently turned the BIG 3-0. Just to keep it real, I DEFINITELY had major moments of melt down in 2018. There’s something about that number which struck a cord with me. I honestly didn’t even realized how much the anticipated 30 had affected me until I’m looking back on it now. The strange thing is that I was and still am actually at a good place in my life. I have a stable career which supports my lifestyle, I live in beautiful sunny California (a place where people dream about vacationing to), my family is close and the best, and I have an amazing partner in crime. And to think I have all that…and I STILL FREAKED OUT….? My melt downs were so focused on where I wasn’t… and where I should be at 30….I questioned myself, my relationships, everything!! I literally questioned it all!!

Anyway, I guess the point I’m trying to make here is that….no matter how amazing your life may be, there are societal pressures which are EXTREMELY difficult to ignore. There are expectations that have been set and drilled/brained washed into our minds that by 30, we should be A, B, C, D, ETC (you know what I mean?!) For example, when I was younger, I set a timeline for myself… I wanted to achieve X by age 20, 25, 30…and by 30, I always thought I would be married with kids. That is crazy right? At 18…we are setting these goals for ourselves not even KNOWING if that’s ACTUALLY WHAT WE WANT! Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying we’re all like this because I know there are people that know exactly what they want and they stick by it. There is nothing wrong with a timeline (have always been and will always be a planner at heart). But I think as I was approaching 30, I somehow, just focused on all the negatives? Or more so my missed projections from a timeline that was created a long, long time ago.

I got confused… 100 percent confused. In a way, I lost myself and what I really want. I was getting mixed up between what I WANT versus what I’m expected to want and what society wants me to want…(does that make any sense?…I hope so!). It really took a lot… and part of it was getting sick in the last couple months of 2018, to really forget about this idea of turning 30. Because honestly, at the end of the day, life is simple. I had to break it down to the fundamentals, to its core. And at its core, is health because without health, you’ve got NOTHING and then there love. Love for yourself, the people around you, love for what you do on a daily basis and love that you share/put out into the universe.

And so…I redirected my energy, my anxious anticipation of turning 30 to these fundamentals. I looked myself in the mirror, splashed some cold water on my face (figuratively haha) and told myself that I am exactly where I need to be. Yes, I’m not married, no I don’t have kids but I’m still figuring out if that’s what I want. I think I’ve always been good at doing what I’m told. Growing up, I never fought back, I listened to my parents, my teachers, and even now, my boss. I never questioned authority (I guess that’s a good way to put it). And so I also never questioned these societal pressures…UNTIL NOW. But in this day and age and the world we live in, I’m thinking Kat its about time you questioned it!

Life is just too short (that’s another thing I’ve experienced this past year.. is that time is just flying by faster and faster). I could see my life play out in so many different scenarios: continue to climb the corporate ladder, have a comfortable life, etc or I can see myself quitting, travel the world and see where life takes me. And as SCARY as it sounds to me, the fact that I can even SEE option 2 as an OPTION is beautiful thing. It proves to myself that I’m seeing beyond and wanting beyond what society wants me to want. It shows me that I’m opening my eyes and heart to living a life that I TRULY WANT TO LIVE. NOW…what kind of life that is… I’m also still figuring that out haha BUT the point is…I’ve learned that I don’t want to be a robot… or a minion, and if ultimately my choice is to stick with my career and live a comfortable life, then so be it. But at least I’ll know its what I WANT and what MAKES ME HAPPY and not a product of what society has brainwashed me to desire.

MANGO

MANGO

MANGO has never really been on my radar until recently and I have to say, MANGO definitely reminds me of Zara with one big difference, MANGO seems to carry more classic, timeless pieces and Zara focuses more on seasonal trends. So… if you’re looking to purchase a few staples for your wardrobe, I would highly recommend checking out their website. I took some time during my lunch break to pick out a few of my favorite pieces from their fall/winter sale happening right now! And let me tell you ladies, there are PLENTY of items to choose from! I am about to make a big purchase…because it’s also free shipping and FREE RETURNS! (very, very convenient in my opinion haha). Hope you enjoy!!!

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New Year, Better Me

New Year, Better Me

And here it goes! Writing down my New Years resolutions for the world to see (haha jk, well… kinda) But really, I’m writing this down for ME. In 2019, I want to:

  1. Eat more whole foods – include greens in every meal, less red meat and processed food
  2. Exercise 3-4x a week – barre, yoga, hiking, biking, and even on days off, be active for at least 30 minutes a day, take the stairs, walk to the grocery store, etc. Walk Minnie at least 20 minutes a day to give her more time to explore the outside world!
  3. Wake up at 5:30am on week days – to give myself time to meditate, morning yoga stretches, eat breakfast, and enjoy my ‘me’ time
  4. Self care routine- actually stick to a self care routine for longer than one month (do facials 2x a week, exfoliate skin regularly, hair masks, etc)
  5. Publish one blog post a week and explore other opportunities outside of my career. Be brave and stop coming up with excuses… and start a venture already! (I mean…teens own businesses, Kat you can do it too!!)
  6. Go on at least three trips- one with my family, one solo, and one with Bae (to where?… still thinking about that)
  7. Read more books – to expand my mind
  8. Call my friends at least once a month/see my friends more often- actually schedule google invites to make things happen! Make more effort even though its easier to be lazy and blame it on the fact that we are all too busy.
  9. Learn to say no to family – realize its not the amount of time we spend together but the quality of the time together that matters more
  10. Lastly, in 2019 I want to live more consciously…presently and fearlessly!!
“There are only two days in the year that nothing can be done. One is called Yesterday and the other is called Tomorrow. Today is the right day to Love, Believe, Do and mostly Live.” – Dalai Lama 

2018 Reflections

2018 Reflections

I think this will be the first time I’m going to write down my new years resolutions as an adult. In the past, I would think of a few ideas here and there but I never took the TIME to write them down, let alone strategize how I plan to accomplish my goals. It is one thing to write down the goals but I think more importantly, I need to come up with ways and tactics that will help me achieve them. 2018 was a year of change – I faced many challenges, from personal to professional, physical, mental and emotional. So before I write down my 2019 resolutions, I also wanted to take time to reflect on 2018.

A recap of 2018:

  1. I left my first and only job out of college of 6 years, the job that I loved (for the most part), took me to Australia (the best 2 years of my life to date), and the job that consumed a big part of my life (in some strange ways, a job that had defined me)
  2. I moved in with my boyfriend of 7 years, living together for the first time in the US (we lived together for 1 year in Australia). This is the first time I’ve moved in with a significant other. To say that its been challenging is an understatement. Meshing two people’s lives and habits together was definitely harder than I could have ever imagined.
  3. In the last 3 months of 2018, I experienced many health scares- too many doctors (from a rheumatologist to an oncologist), hospitals, and needles. Racked up thousands in medical bills, even WITH insurance.
  4. I learned that even though I may be making more money and working less at my new job, I need to feel fulfillment more than I need money. This is one of the reasons why I started my Instagram and Blog…I needed an outlet, I needed to find something to fulfill me…drive me!
  5. I learned to value Time infinitely more. The pace of life changed…time is flying by faster and faster and all I want to do, is to be able to slow it down. I became greedy with time and learned that time is limited. I wish I just had more TIME.
  6. I learned that living super close to my family has its pros and cons.
  7. I realized that I need to focus on my health before anything else…I used to wake up early and spend my evenings on Instagram, engaging, brainstorming about content, doing research, etc and realized that it consumed me…It consumed my thoughts and at one point, my life. I chose the gram over my health.
  8. More than ever, I realized how much I need to get on a plane and travel- multiple times a year.
  9. I learned that change is good…in all aspects of life.
  10. Lastly, I learned that things don’t always turn out the way you had imagined it to, planned or hoped for. The unknown scares the shit out of me…especially being the planner that I am. But the unknown = endless possibilities and I learned that I need to let go…plan less…and let life surprise me.

Not going to lie…that was actually very therapeutic! This is the first time I’ve written down my reflections too. I think this will actually turn into two separate blog posts (sharing my 2019 new years resolutions next). I highly recommend taking an hour out of your day before this year is over to reflect on everything you’ve learned and experienced (good and bad). It’s way to easy to go through the motions of life and forget to take moments here and there to pause and reflect!! Although in my books, this was a tough year, I think I’ve grown the most. I’ve grown in more ways than I could have ever imagined (granted I’ve also shed more tears than all the previous years combined! haha) Some days I was an emotional mess, other days I was completely numb. But I was more human than I had ever been before.

“Material things lost can be found. But there is one thing that can never be found when it is lost – “Life”. -Steve Jobs