How He Popped the Big Q – Part I
I can’t believe I’m actually sitting here writing this blog post today!!! To say that I’ve been wedding obsessed since I was a teenager is an understatement. My closest friends know just HOW obsessed I am with the entire ordeal- fairy tale weddings, engagement rings, Pnina Tornai, Berta, florals…I LOVE it all!!! I feel like I’ve had my ring and dress picked out since I was 18 haha (the funny thing is when we were designing the ring I was SUPER indecisive? next blog post will be all about the ring!) Anyway…back to the point and why you’re all here. I will TRY my very best to describe the events leading up to the big day and details about the proposal in the most concise, summarized fashion I can notate. So please, bear with me!
Weeks leading up to the proposal
So, I think it was around April of this year when Bae came to me and suggested that we go ring shopping together. Mind you, we’ve gone ring shopping before and have definitely talked about getting married but there were many factors that made the timing not quite right. We’ve been together for 8 years, so it sure feels like a marriage! haha (in a good way, of course). And to be honest, both of us were not in a rush to get hitched. As much as I love weddings and live for all of this, I trusted in the timing of the universe. I wanted both of us to be at a good place in our lives–stable, comfortable and happy. I wasn’t quite sure just HOW serious he was about going ring shopping this time around until he gave me an official deadline to pick out my ring.
I believe that deadline was 6 weeks from when he suggested we go ring shopping. Being the somewhat financially savvy person that I am, I DEFINITELY needed that amount of time to perform my due diligence. This is an investment, am I right ladies? We must always perform our due diligence before a business acquisition! [any finance accounting ladies out there? ;)] I told Bae that we have to do this right. Let’s visit a few jewelers, get a couple of quotes and then go from there. And of course, we shopped around but luckily decided to go with the first jeweler we went to and they did an AMAZING job! Okay, getting back on track. So in my mind, I thought hmm 6 weeks…that takes us into May and we had a road trip planned to Monterey, California for the CaliRoots festival Memorial Day weekend. Of course, I thought, okay so maybe he wants to propose then??!?!
And let me TELL YOU….you CANNOT surprise me haha I don’t know what it is but I’m just super sensitive and pay close attention to detail so I’d know if he was up to something! Also, just to be brutally honest (sorry babe), he always gives away too many hints when he plans a ‘surprise’ and I usually figure it out!! haha So of course, being the wonderful, giving man that he is, Bae definitely dropped a few hints. Let’s use a scale now. With the deadline, I thought the possibility of the proposal happening during Memorial Day weekend was a 5 out of 10…BUT with these hints, the scale definitely tipped to 7 or 8.
Hint 1: One day, he came home from work and told me that he booked the hotels for our trip up north but he didn’t want to TELL me where we are staying?! uh that’s strange. And then he further goes on to say, I don’t want you to research the place or area we’re staying at with a physical “wink” haha (OKAY BABE, way to almost give it away haha)
Hint 2: It was either on the same day or a couple days later, Bae goes…”we can check out wedding venues while we’re there, Central California is beautiful you know?” I said…sure haha but COME ON…is that a big hint or what?! I guess I also thought, since we were engagement ring shopping, the natural thing to do is to think about where we wanted to get married. So maybe it was just a great suggestion. Either way, I was thinking alright, so potentially it will happen Memorial Day weekend.
Hint 3: A week or two before the trip, he pulls up the map and shows me a photo of this beach in Central California and asked me, oh isn’t this beautiful? You can shoot Instagram photos here. But the way he said it was a little strange…haha I feel like he was suggesting something MORE (probably from his mannerism). At this point, in my mind, I was thinking okay, it’s probably going to happen on our trip to NorCal and it’ll probably be at the beach!
BUT the WEEK before we left….a few things happened where I was almost 100% certain that he would NOT be proposing. #1 – I KNEW he didn’t talk to my dad yet because we eat dinner with my parents about once a week and I knew the two of them never had alone time together! I was always with Bae or my dad and I thought to myself, there is NO WAY he would propose without asking for my dad’s permission (more details about that later and what actually happened). #2 – One of my best friends just turned 30 so she actually went to our jeweler to get a necklace made. I went with her the weekend before our trip to pick up the necklace and the jeweler acted strange…! THEY were the ones that brought up my ring and joked about whether its ready or not…and then further talked about how making a ring takes a long time, etc. I DIDN’T ASK ABOUT IT! It was so strange that they brought up my ring!! haha (probably also to just start a convo). However, before we left, the jeweler said in all seriousness, the ring isn’t ready but if he gives us permission, we can let you know when it is. And I said, NO I don’t need to know when the ring is ready but thank you! So….I left, and was a bit confused but really believed that the ring was not ready (AND LADIES, IT ACTUALLY WASN’T!!! KEEP ON READING).
So let’s revisit that scale haha with these 2 events happening the week before our trip, I was so sure it wasn’t going to happen!! I thought to myself, maybe he initially wanted to do it on this trip, but perhaps he had to push it back because the ring wasn’t ready and that’s why he had not yet asked my dad for his blessing/approval. That scale shifted from 7 or 8 out of 10 to 1 or 2 haha…or maybe zero.
So here we are, a few days before our trip, almost certain the proposal wasn’t going to happen as I had originally suspected…I was slightly disappointed but then became extremely curious….I wondered WHEN he would do it?! We have a trip planned to Cabo in August, so I thought oh ya, maybe he will do it then. Or he might do it locally because SoCal is beautiful! Honestly, it didn’t really matter where or when…but it was more so the anxiety of NOT KNOWING!!! (Can you tell, I don’t do well with unknowns?!)
Being the fashionista that I am, I packed a few outfits I wanted to shoot on our trip and packed two dresses (one white from VICI- for the festival, which ended up being the dress that I wore on the day we got engaged! and one royal blue floral dress from Revolve- for a nice dinner). I love both of the dresses equally [important fact for later] haha and didn’t think anything more. I guess in my mind, since I thought he would propose at the beach, IF THERE WAS ANY CHANCE this is happening, the blue dress would look great for the beach!
Many lengthy paragraphs later….now this takes us to Thursday, May 23, 2019, THE DAY MY FUTURE HUBBY PROPOSED TO ME!!! [CLIFF HANGER AHEAD] haha
To find out more, come back for Part II! Didn’t want to make this blog post 100 miles long! Hope you enjoyed reading so far! I also wanted to document this so we will always remember this very special time in our lives.
Love you babes! xoxo Kat